Monday, May 11, 2009

Mother's Day

These cuties are why I celebrate Mother's Day:


Sunday we got to see both of our mothers. Edward's mom and step-dad were travelling through the area after visiting her mom in Memphis. We were excited to see them for a few minutes!

Grammy and Grandad with their crew

Saturday my family treated me to a fun day. After I attended my brother Ben's jr. college graduation, we headed to St. Louis. We went to the temple. We enjoyed walking around the beautiful temple grounds.
They then took me to my favorite restaurant, Chevy's. They know taking Mom there makes her a happy woman!
We then stopped by our favorite park. It's a place with a big pond for fishing or feeding the ducks. It has two barns and a huge stable full of horses, cows, pigs, sheep, goats, ducks, and geese.


The men in the Wright family have a tradition of preparing a meal for us moms on Mother's Day, as well as cleaning up and tending to the children! Ahh, what a nice thing.
Unfortunately, the day ended with my poor nephew, Harrison, acquiring 6 stitches after a fall into the wood trim on the couch. Poor guy! We were joking about the timing of it. Ben graduated the day before. Two years ago, we were at Ben's high school graduation party when Elizabeth had to get 14 stitches in the middle of her forehead. We're going to make all the kids wear helmets when he graduates from his four-year university!

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Family Picture Time... Ugh!

I think we are getting past the point where we can use the camera's timer to take a family picture. Watching the blinking light doesn't cut it for at least 2/3 of the Felker Family. I can get some cooperation (sometimes) when I'm behind the camera, working hard for a smile. See? These turned out pretty cute on Easter:
Mallory gave me a nice, toothy grin.

And Drew gave me a blue, toothy grin. Thank you Easter Bunny!


Elizabeth always offers a diva pose.


Ross is pretty easy going. He's usually game for my camera craziness.


Aside from the blue teeth and Ring Pop, I think this one turned out pretty well.

A bit goofy, but fun.
Here's what I'm talking about with the camera's timer:
Mr. Uncooperative, Drew, started off not wanting to humor me with a nice family portrait.

I had the audacity to fix Mallory's bow. What was I thinking?

I told everyone to get ready, but I wasn't ready myself! Mallory is trying to squirm out of my arms. And Drew is apparently trying to sneak in a "purple nurple" on Ross.

Oops! That flash caught us off gaurd.

Sadly, this was our best one. I'm trying to tell myself that Mallory was just trying to smile, not shriek. Um, yeah. That's it.

Thursday, April 30, 2009

When Pigs Fly

My brother, Aaron, called to tell me a joke today. It went like this:

Many people said pigs would fly before a black man was elected president. Sure enough, on President Obama's 100th day in office, swine flu.

Hee hee hee.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Big Birthday Girl

My baby girl isn't such a baby anymore! She turned two Saturday.
~ The two birthday girls blowing out their candles~
Mallory shares a birthday with her Aunt Annie
Mal was so cute. She tried over and over to blow out her candles.


After a bunch of tries, she finally asked, "Mommy help me?"




Goodbye hugs for Uncle Aaron

Ross Update

I've been asked by lots of people how things have been for us just a week out of the diagnosis. Things are going really well. Ross continues to have such a positive attitude. He adds up the number of carbs he eats per meal quicker than Edward and me! He is giving himself his own injections in his stomach and legs before each meal. I think he's kind of proud of that. He can't quite reach his arms, so we help him when it's time for a shot there. We have to rotate the injection sites each time so scar tissue doesn't build up. That would affect how he absorbs the insulin.

It was really hard for me to send him to school on Monday! I was quite anxious the entire day. I take comfort in knowing we are less than a mile from school. Also, the school nurse is wonderful. She has had diabetic students in the past, and her foster son had type 1 at the age of 3. I feel comfortable knowing he is in her hands, although I wish he was with me 24/7 right now.

His blood sugar continues to fluctuate a lot. The nurse called me once yesterday, and twice today to let me know he was hypoglycemic, or low. He had to take his glucose pills to raise it quickly. He reached 58 this afternoon. He did have an incident last Saturday that was a bit scary. He came to me and told me he was feeling low. I took a blood sugar reading and it was 88 - at the low end of his normal. He ate a snack, and about twenty minutes later he he started slurring his speech. He seemed very dazed and then began sweating profusely! I'm talking he looked like he was playing baseball in full catcher's gear in July! And he was just sitting there! We gave him his glucose pills, and within 5 minutes he was fine again. Crazy! I wish we would have tested him again at that time, but we were just trying to get him back to normal.

We have been so touched by the prayers, thoughts, and support of our friends and family as well as strangers! Edward had a client that came into the office specifically to give him a Jeremy Maclin rookie card (Mizzou player just drafted to the NFL) that we later learned is worth $70 right now. He's never met Ross, but he wanted to give him something to cheer him up. I've also been contacted by our local chapter of a diabetes support group. They have bent over backwards to make sure we're doing okay.

Thanks again for the prayers! We can feel them.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Our New Life

We're home! Whew! What a whirlwind! We got to leave the hospital one day early because Ross is so awesome, and Edward and I seem to be quick learners. I just want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers as well as phone calls. Let me start from the beginning.

Last week (only 9 days ago), Ross started telling me how tired he was and was complaining that he had no energy. I honestly just kind of pushed it off as getting over Easter weekend. We had just made a two day trip to Memphis and back, filled with lots of stops. We had a weekend of late nights and irregular meals. And of course Easter is filled with candy. I told him we would just keep an eye on it. Ross is my kid that is always outside shooting baskets, jumping on the trampoline, hitting baseballs, etc. So, when he just felt like staying inside all week, I knew he really was tired.

Then Friday night he kept telling me how thirsty he was. He kept asking for drinks. Ping! That was when diabetes first entered my mind. Again, I knew I would just keep an eye on him. And as I thought about it more, I remembered him getting up several times during the night to use the restroom that week - not normal for Ross.

Saturday morning he woke up, and I was STARTLED by his appearance. As strange as it sounds, my normally thin little guy looked absolutely skeletal to me. And this was just basically overnight. I really started getting concerned at that point, and I voiced my concerns to Edward for the first time. We got online that night, and I was pretty sure Type 1 Diabetes was what we were looking at, although I didn't want to get myself too worked up at that point. I'm not much of a worrier, so I thought I would make a doctor's appointment first thing Monday morning. Until then, we would just keep on living.

At my parents' house on Sunday I weighed Ross. He had lost 5 pounds. That was 14% of his weight! Now, in all honesty we hadn't weighed him since the end of November. However, being his Mommy, I know that the weight loss was just that week.

Thankfully, our family physician's office got him in at 9:30 Monday morning. I gave the nurse all the symptoms, and she said that our doctor would most likely want a urine sample. Ross gave it, then the nurse came in and said the doctor was in the all, but before she came in she wanted to get a blood sugar reading. At that moment, I knew exactly what our doctor would say when she walked in the room. And that is what happened about three minutes later. She came in and very sweetly but matter-of-factly told Ross, "I'm sorry you had to get a finger stick. And I'm sorry, you have a disease called Type 1 Diabetes. Blah blah blah, and you're going to have to give yourself about three shots a day in your stomach...." At that point I wanted to scream, "WAIT! Let's let this sink in a little before you tell him about that!" Oh well. We really love our doctor, but I didn't want her to tell him that part just yet. I was watching his face as she was talking, and I could tell he was stunned. The doctor told us her receptionist would set up an appointment to see the specialists at a pediatric hospital in the city. She was on hold for a while, so she sent us home and told us she would call us with the appointment time.

As we were walking out to the car I put my arm around Ross and asked him how he felt. At that time he broke down. I asked him if he was more upset that it was a disease or that he had to give himself shots? He said because it was a disease. I told him if he was to get a disease, this is the one we want because we can control it. It's not cancer. It's not leukemia. We can control this.

I got home and called Edward. After we hung up, I got a call from the receptionist telling me that we needed to pack a bag for 3-4 days, and it was urgent that we come up right away and report to the ER. At that point I felt a little more anxious, but I knew it would be okay.

Fast forward when we got there. He was still feeling so, so weak and tired. The I.V. was the hardest part of the whole stay with him. We were told his blood sugar range should be 80 - 150. When we arrived his was at 447! He quickly got some insulin, and we were absolutely astonished at how quickly he became more like the normal Ross! He felt so much better within 30 minutes!

I won't go into every detail of our stay, but overall it was wonderful. The staff there is amazing, and so helpful. We basically had to stay for the three days, of course to help get his blood sugars where they need to be, but also for us to learn how we need to live now. We called it diabetes college. We learned so much. It's still overwhelming, but I am so confident that we will do well with this new way of life. We've learned how to count the carbs to determine the amount of insulin he will need before each meal. We've learned how to check his blood sugar with the finger pricks and administer the injections. It's still really hard for me to give my own child a shot. Ross has even been giving himself injections. And can I just say what a cool kid he is! He is amazing!! He has not fussed or whined or cried once about the blood checks or the injections! He doesn't even flinch when he gets them! He's a stud!

He will be getting at least a total of four injections per day. He gets three, quick-acting insulin doses before each meal, and he gets one long-lasting dose before bed. Shortly he will be getting them with small snacks between meals if the snacks have a certain number of carbs. We are to keep in contact with the endocrinologist daily for the next two weeks, then we will return to clinic. After that we will be in contact daily with the diabetes nurses, and two weeks we'll have another clinic. After that, we'll return every three months.

Talking to a cousin

Ross played Wii, XBox 360, PlayStation 2, air hockey, pinball, basketball, watched movies, played his DS, took walks, read magazines, etc. He cracked us up because he kept saying, "Everybody back home is thinking, 'Poor Ross!', but I'm here having so much fun!!" He also kept saying, "I don't feel like I'm in a hospital. I feel like I'm in a hotel!"
He got lots of flak from the staff for wearing his Yankees gear!



He wore his own clothes the entire time. He had the option of wearing these p.j.'s, but he didn't care to wear something that said, "tired little tiger." :)


And I had to include this charmer. Of course Edward and I wanted to stay with Ross the entire time. We sat on this nice, big couch during the first evening. When Edward unfolded it that night for bed, it was pretty much the size of a twin bed! So we shared a measly little blanket and slept on opposite ends of the "bed." Oh, it was funny. Have you ever seen Willy Wonka (the original)? Do you remember the scene where all four of Charlie's grandparents shared a bed? That's how I felt!! I kept calling Edward "Grandpa Joe." :)

Anyway, this has been a supper long post. Sorry! We all have great attitudes about this. We can do it! Do you know what has been the most surprising information to us? We don't have to change a thing about Ross' diet! He can eat anything we can eat, we just have to give him more insulin if he will be eating more carbs. Now, we feel like this is a good starting place for our whole family to eat healthier. This condition (we'd rather call it that than a disease) just requires more planning and balancing, and who couldn't benefit from that.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Ross

Hey everybody! Just a quick update on us! We got an unexpected diagnosis for Ross yesterday. We found out he has Type 1 Diabetes. We have been at Cardinal Glennon's Children's Hospital since yesterday morning. We'll continue to be here through Thursday. He's doing well. We're here to learn how to treat this and what to expect. I'll post when I can. When we get home, I'll fill you all in on the whole story. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

SEMO ARC

On our way home from Memphis last weekend, we told the kids we would take them swimming since we didn't get any hotel swimming in. Southeast Missouri State has recently put in a beautiful aquatic rec. center. It was c-c-c-c-freezing, but it was fun! For $5 per person (excluding Mallory), it was a great day of fun. Because it was the day before Easter, we pretty much had the entire facility to ourselves.

Monkey Boy Ross on the rock climbing wall

Swinging like Tarzan on the zip line

Daddy had to show us how it was done!


Elizabeth's turn on the zip line


Poor Drew is terrified of water! Actually, he's terrified of lots of things - winding roads, puppies - all scary to him! So he just hangs out on the steps and makes his own fun.


Muscle Man




Mallory was content in Daddy's arms.


But she did play on the steps too, and she swung like a monkey on the hand rails.


Elizabeth talked me in to trying the zipline, but fortunately enough there is no record of it on film. I love doing fun things like that, but I didn't really want to do it that day. First of all, we were going to a restaurant and doing a little shopping after swimming, so I didn't want to get my head wet. This is something that men nor children can ever understand, am I right ladies? They just don't get it. Elizabeth assured me I wouldn't get my face wet. Right. Secondly, I didn't want to do it because you had to hold yourself up with a vertical 2 inch rope. Now, my flabby, un-toned arms weren't up for the challenge. After deciding to be a good sport and take the plunge, I took my place and knew I would not be able to hold myself out of the water. If you want to go really far, you have to pull your body up, missing the water because it slows you down. Pretty much I jumped off the platform, and my lack of arm strength caused me to just drop my lower body into the water while dangling from the rope. Classy, I know. I let go of the rope and of course my head went under. I surfaced to see my entire family laughing, as well as the three 20 year-old-100-pound-female-lifeguards. Glad I could make your day folks.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Family Visits

This post is pretty much for our far away Felker and Sargent families. On Friday and Saturday, we travelled down to Memphis to visit with Edwards Grandma Sargent and his Aunt Michele Hathaway's family. On our way down, we were able to visit Aunt Tootie and Cousin Carrie in Sikeston. As always, Cousin Carrie thought of the children and had made Easter cookies for them to decorate while we visited. We had a wonderful visit and a yummy lunch before we made it down to Memphis. And I was sorry I didn't take pictures of the trees in Sikeston. Due to the ice storm that hit the area in January, it literally look like a tornado ripped through the town. You can't believe all of the limbs that were still down three months later.

~Our family with 90 year-old Aunt Tootie~
~Edward and Grandma Sargent~
She looked good, despite her blue cast! She said this is the longest she's ever had her hair.

~Ross, Elizabeth, & Grandma Sargent~

~Our crew with Grandma~
Can you tell Drew did not want to be in the picture?



The kids took a movie break with cousins Drew & Aaron Hathaway. The boys were very hospitable!


Cousin Drew did A LOT of entertaining!!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

My Little Man

For dinner one night last week, I set a divided child's plate at Drew's place. When he sat down, he picked it up and announced, "Mom. I don't need this anymore. I'm a man now."

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Parental Warning Advisory

I feel it is my civic duty as an upstanding citizen of this country and as a loving mother of four to warn you, my wonderful readers, of a very inappropriate product that is out on the market. This product is causing much trouble and heartache. This horrific product of which I speak is called Moon Sand.

Several years ago I bought into the hype of this cursed product and bought it for Drew for his birthday. I naively believed the claims that it was "mess free." I don't think they use that claim any more in their marketing because I believe they were probably sued for false advertising. I believe the makers of Moon Sand also probably helped create Anthrax. I look at both as being equally dangerous when put into the wrong hands. What sane adult would say, "Hey Herb. Let's create soft, colorful sand that can be played with indoors." "Great idea, Frank!"

After Drew has begged me for several months to play with it, I finally relented today. I quickly remembered why it has been locked away in a high shelf for several years. It is an awful, awful thing. When I finished cleaning up after Drew and Mallory today, I headed for the trash can. Then I thought, "Drew will be in tears." So either I'm going to require that it only be played with outside, or I'm going to offer him money in return for the blasted stuff.

So consider yourselves warned. And I'm sorry if I bought Moon Sand for your child as a gift in the past. Either that or I really didn't like you.








Thursday, April 2, 2009

Boohoohoo!

My beloved ER is officially over. Oh, how I'm going to miss it. It has been a staple in my life for fifteen years. I can remember watching the very first episode. I have literally been watching it for half my life. And I have never missed an episode. If for some strange reason I was going to be gone on a Thursday night at 9:00, I always recorded it. I even remember watching it with Edward in the hospital the night Elizabeth was born. In our early years of marriage, I got Edward hooked on it too, although he isn't quite as much of a fan as I. Thursday night has been date night after the kids are put to bed. Farewell, my favorite TV show of all time!